My word for 2017:

Grounded. That's what I want my 2017 to feel like.

No, I'm not talking teenagers in timeout.

For me, grounded means keeping in mind always who I am and whose I am.

Feeling glad and grateful for my personality, my extroverted introvert self, my loud laughter, my low maintenance beauty regimen, and even my foibles, the lessons I have to keep learning.

Taking comfort in who I belong to--God, family, friends.

Holding fast to the communities and relationships that embrace me with love and accountability--my marriage, my church, my coworkers, loved ones and kin who know me best.

When I think of living out 2017 in a grounded way, I also think about being present.

Not turning to my phone when I have a free moment, or a bored one.

Looking someone in the eye when I pass them rather than looking down. Or, gazing up at the sky and trees instead of at my feet.

Concentrating more on relationships built and grown face-to-face, or ear-to-ear, or pen-to-paper. Starting a conversation with a stranger.

Keeping "good secrets," as Rachel Held Evans says (#13 over here), and getting over the Fear Of Missing Out that our screen-oriented world has begun to ingrain.

Completing one task without a dozen other tabs open.

I mulled many other words for the year this weekend during my brainstorming.

Fearless, open, ally.

Seeking, listening, still.

Gospel ("Good News"), simple, light.

Centered, steadfast, stalwart.

And as I began to notice a pattern (see those last three), I finally settled on grounded.

Because in my mind, being grounded in who I am and whose I am will pave the way for me to strengthen the other words and concepts that I believe in.

My word for the year starts with me, but doesn't end with me. It's about centering myself, grounding myself, so that I can learn to better live with and serve others. I feel that "grounded," in one word, combines the concepts of presence and community. And that's what I want to convey, to myself and to the world.

By living an intentionally grounded year, I aim for my knowledge and love of myself and my communities to provide a strong foundation so that my courage, openness, compassion, and action toward others can grow. If I start from a point of grounding, of calm, then I hope I can respond strongly and positively to the unknown challenges and opportunities that will come through in 2017.

Grounded in who I am and whose I am, so that I may reach out to others. This year, that's always where I want to begin.

Haven't done this practice before? Head over to my friend Rosie's site, where I first learned about it, to hear what she has to say. And I'd love to know: What word are you claiming for 2017?

Happy New Year!

November Joys

Oh, friends, if you couldn't tell from my blogging nonexistence over here, November took it out of me. And yet, there were so many good moments in those 30 days!

- Heard author and food pantry founder Sara Miles speak in person. I first read her memoir Take This Bread: A Radical Conversion seven years ago during my ministry internship, and led a book discussion on it that same summer. She shared many good words on this night, including: "The healing of our communities requires faith to sit down and eat with others, especially strangers, especially the 'wrong' people."

- Ran my first 5K! Sean and I joined his colleagues in the annual Strong Legs Run benefiting Children's Healthcare of Atlanta, and we literally ran the whole thing, which I wasn't sure I'd be able to do, either physically or mentally. But thanks to my pace setter husband, the strength training I've been doing, and the refreshing early-morning air, we jogged through a quiet downtown ATL in less than 30 minutes. Needless to say, I was very proud, and we then enjoyed a delicious brunch with friends at Six Feet Under. Fun to explore more of our home city this way!

- Well, November 9 dawned, and let's be honest, I wasn't in the greatest of emotional states. I haven't written about it much at all, because I felt like a lot of people were writing about it, and I don't know that I would have added much to the noise on either side. But I was grateful to be able to go into a workplace where I could talk, exchange stunned looks, shed a few tears, eat doughnuts, and process what had happened and what to do next. Two things that struck me right away were that I

1) need to pay attention to others when I'm in public places, not look at my phone, but instead see where I can break down walls and connect with strangers

2) need to be more proactive in getting to know our actual neighbors, those who live on our street

Not to mention needing to listen more in general.  

- I'm grateful that I belong to communities that open doors for these thoughts to be put into actions. That very evening, less than 24 hours after the election, I attended a Round Table dinner, a setting meant to foster intentional conversations between people of all sorts. It was so very refreshing to sit and get to know the women at my table, beautiful inside and out, and to share pieces of my own story--but mostly, the gift was to listen. The questions we discussed were:

1) Think of a time in your life when a neighbor has become a stranger.

2) Think of a time when a stranger has become a neighbor.

3) How can we find common ground during this time in our nation and world?

If you are in the Atlanta area, I encourage you to check back on the website above to learn more, and if you're in a different place, I encourage you to find something similar to this in your own community.

- My writing group has been going strong this semester, and I've felt extra grateful for these folks, for their words, and for our ability to share, because I do believe that one of the only ways to untangle from the web of divisiveness is to share our stories with one another. This also was the case just last week, when I was able to facilitate a series of personal writing prompts with a group of coworkers; sharing our life experiences is truly one of the most sacred practices I can think of.

- We celebrated my sweet sister-in-law kicking off a new decade, and simultaneously learned that we're going to be an aunt and uncle this summer! So very excited.

- I've gotten to spend time with a lot of good friends in November--from lunches and ice cream dates with coworkers to breakfast with college friends, plus a long crisp walk and dinner with girls I've known since birth, it's been important for my well-being to catch up with these lovely souls.

- And, on the other end of the spectrum (but equally important), we have actually gotten a chance to meet several of our neighbors over the past few weeks, which has been a gift, and has made me mindful of creating opportunities to meet more soon (holiday baked goods, anyone?). 

- The Thanksgiving holiday was relaxing and delicious, and once again made me grateful for the collection of family I've been given, by blood and spirit.

- RAIN! Praise Jesus, enough said.

- Finally, Sean and I enjoyed our annual Harry Potter movie marathon over the span of the month. This year, it meant something deeper to me, and I've started rereading the books to pin it down even further; because this year, I've been especially mindful of the bravery and courage that my favorite fictional teenagers showed at every turn, as their world turned more and more dangerous. At the start, they were often courageous because they were young and naive and didn't know any better (or accidentally ran into the third-floor corridor and came face to face with a three-headed dog). But as they grew, with each new encounter with evil and fear--and perhaps more importantly, with each new encounter with good, with friendship, with loyalty--their bravery and determination to defend the oppressed, whether they knew them well or not, transformed into something purposeful and driven. They realized they were fighting for something bigger than themselves, and yet it was because of the small moments with one another, because of relationships they had forged, that they were spurred to fight in the first place (along with a prophecy or two). And even in the midst of the dark moments, they were always able to find gratitude, humor, and encouragement.

What about you? What gave you joy this November, and what are you looking forward to in December?

October Joys

Curious? Check out #6!

Curious? Check out #6!

You may have noticed there haven't been many "Friday Five" posts around here recently, so I've decided to return to monthly favorites for the time being. October went by so quickly, but there were so many good moments in these 31 days. Here are a few:

1. We went to the beach! We didn't get to go on our regular trip this summer because of other exciting travel adventures, but I was hankering for the cottage and am grateful that we were able to work out our schedules to go (and celebrate our second wedding anniversary at the same time!). While we were there...

2. I took the entire four days off of social media and email, which I hadn't done in quite awhile, and it was balm for my soul. I love you people, but I get too entangled sometimes, and it was lovely to not even think about checking in. I felt healthy and inwardly clean in a different way, too.

3. I read new books! A Great Reckoning by Louise Penny (the newest Gamache mystery), Very Married by Katherine Willis Pershey (I am so glad this book exists, please read it), and A Circle of Quiet by Madeleine L'Engle. The last one particularly struck me, perhaps especially while I was within my own "circle of quiet," in one of my favorite places, with my closest people, without the buzz of the world. As a writer and a seeker and a wife and a someday mother (don't read into this, people--I literally mean someday, as in I have no idea when), wondering how to hold all of those in tension, it felt like the perfect book to read, and to return to.

4. Birthday celebrations. I was born in October and so was my brother, so we had two cozy dinners at my parents' house in the middle of the month and again at the end. My mother has also begun making these phenomenal birthday cards out of old photos of us, and it's the best. Grateful for another year (and, let's face it, lots of cake).

5. Connecting with Davidson folks in Atlanta. We are Wildcats through and through, as anyone who knows us just a little bit is aware, and we got to attend two alumni events that introduced us to new Davidsonians in the area. The second was a morning spent working in a local community garden alongside the Atlanta Community Food Bank, which was a lot of fun, hard work, and quite satisfying to see the end result (and to enjoy some fried chicken at Paschal's afterwards).

6. Speaking of Davidson, we went up to the actual Exit 30 for one weekend, which was (predictably) lovely in every way, weather included (it actually felt like fall, wish Atlanta would catch the hint!). We got there around 10 a.m. on Saturday, hightailed it immediately to our favorite breakfast spot (that isn't our dining room table), went to the farmer's market, watched the 'Cats' annual Red & Black scrimmage, met up with lots of friends, walked our favorite black lab, finally ate at nationally-renowned Kindred, and... I participated in a reading with my old writing workshop peers at the Warehouse Performing Arts Center in Cornelius. My teacher and mentor Gilda graciously invited me back to take part, and boy was it great fun, and so meaningful. Eleven folks read original pieces of memoir, and it was such a reminder of why I love personal writing, and how it can move so deeply in our lives, both writer and reader/hearer. And for me, the most meaningful part was that several dear North Carolina friends came to support me. It was a wonderfully special evening.

(And then we watched the Cubs win the pennant and the next morning we went to our favorite breakfast place one more time and then headed back to ATL. There are always mixed feelings, but mine is primarily gratitude that our two places are less than half a day's drive away from one another. And yet, we always have to choose.)

7. Clint read in Atlanta! For those of you who don't know my college classmate Clint Smith, let me introduce you. Go to his website and check out his tour dates, watch his TED Talk, buy and read his new book of poetry, Counting Descent. It was a gift to sit outside on a warm (sigh) evening at A Cappella Books and listen to his poems and his reflections about so many relevant pieces of our country's history and current situation. He's an inspiration. Speaking of which...

8. ...My reading in Cornelius, plus listening to/talking with Clint, were the final straws, as it were, that helped me open up my memoir manuscript that I wrote for my MFA program and haven't really touched since January. I think it's good that I've taken that time away, but I also feel like I have something to create (or finish creating, make better), and I've been too afraid? undisciplined? busy? to bring it back to the forefront. So I'm doing my best. And you may not see me around here as much until it's done (or you may, if I'm procrastinating). But I want this to be something, and it's not going to be until I take action.

9. I got to take a work field trip! I drove up to Emory's Oxford College campus last week for research on a feature story, and got to shadow a class visiting the school's organic farm. It was fun and refreshing to be on a small college campus and watch the kids (yes, that's how I think of them now) experience the afternoon. I wish I could have spent more time there--it's where my great-grandfather started school at Emory (back when this was the only campus) in the early 1900s.

10. We had a delicious staff potluck last Friday, which was a great way to kick off the weekend. Fellowship, food, and Friday -- hard to beat that combination.

Finally, I wanted to share this article that I stumbled across today, the first day of a new month, on tuning out technology to tune in God. And I'm going to try it. Join me?

What about you? What were your favorite moments in October? Anyone else waiting for it to actually feel like November, temps-wise?